Motivation Is Key To Achieving Goals!

What do you do to push yourself to get motivated? To push the others around you to get motivated? Does it just come naturally or are there steps to take? Can one find motivation even when the act they are doing is no where near what they thought or wanted?

The answer to each of those all depends on the person. It depends on the dedication your willing to put in to get the results you want. It depends on what your goal is and how much you really want it.

We’ve all had those moments where you’re so ready to go somewhere or do something, that others might not be excited about, and you’re just ready! Like pumped up ready! You remember that feeling? You remember wanting something so bad you didn’t care what it took? That’s motivation.

The literal definition of motivation is, “the general desire or willingness of someone to do something.”

The desire or willingness to do something!

Is what you desire worth the dedication it takes to stay motivated for it? Are you willing to put in what’s needed to get what you want?

To say that each of us has motivation inside of us is true, but to say that we all use that motivation…well sometimes that’s a different story right?

So what can you do? What helps people stay motivated? What can you do to make sure you don’t loose what you desire?

1. Write down your goals! Write down what you actually want or desire to have. Review this regularly! You don’t have to constantly remember every goal you have, write them down so when you do come back to that list it will be there. It might just spark some motivation as soon as you see it again!

2. Use what makes you happy! Do you love listening to music? Pump that jam up then! Do you like to chew gum? Girl grab you some of that hubbu bubbu and get to it! Find the small things that make you happy and incorporate them into what you want, or need, so you can get more out of what your doing!

3. Reach out to others! I know, some people feel that if they reach out for help on something then it “doesn’t count” when they do it or finish it. This has to stop! We NEED each other in this world. We all need help at times, and to say you can do it all, all by yourself, is pure insanity. Reach out to a mentor when you need help in your career! Reach out to a couch if you want to work on physically feeling better! Reach out to a teacher if you want to learn something new! Reach out to a friend is you need encouragement! Reaching out doesn’t make you week, it makes it to where when you do get where your going you’ll have a tribe behind you that you know supports you!

4. Exercise! I can hear it now, “Boooooo, no work outs!” Sorry, not sorry though! Exercise is key to physically, emotionally, and mentally feeling better! Just 5 mins! Take 5 mins everyday and do a stretch, go for a jog, go knock out some crunches and abs! Be active! We can’t expect our goals to just come to us we have to chase them down, tackle them, and make them ours! Can you do all that if your not feeling good? If you barley get up and move everyday, how do you except to tackle that desire you have? Exercise just 5 mins a day, if you’re not use to it, and use that drive to push you in your other goals!

5. Reward yourself! No, I don’t mean go eat an entire tub of ice cream after every workout! No, I don’t mean go buy yourself everything in site because you were able to redo your budget and have extra money this month! No, I don’t mean go fly to the Bahamas cause you got an A+ on your test! I mean, if you just did a hard workout, go reward yourself with a nice hot bath and a piece of chocolate! A PIECE of dark chocolate is the best! If you were able to redo your budget and got some extra money, go have a nice lunch with a friend. If you just scored an A+ on that test, hell ya by the way, go celebrate with a nice relaxing night at home where you dont look at books or anything to do with that class! Or go have a nice night out with friends! It’s the little rewards that actually help push us for more!

So what are you going to do to get motivated? What tools will you use to keep yourself accountable for staying on track?

Write it all down! Whatever you think, or know that helps, write it down! Go back to it over and over and over again! Push yourself!

You can achieve everything you desire, you just go to GO FOR IT!

Are You Willing to Embrace It?

For some, the worst part of growing up is the uncertainty that what you were taught as a child will not actually apply to your adult life. For most of us, what we were taught at home and our school is the fundamentals to how we go about our daily lives.

You were taught to not put aluminum foil in the microwave – and if you weren’t I am teaching you now, do not put it in there, unless your trying to buy a new microwave! – so you were probably taught that at home, by a parent or guardian or experience like myself.

My poor grandmother’s microwave.

Or you were told by some kid at school or by a teacher, and in that case you more in likey went home and attempted it before someone came and caught you.

Now though, that lesson has stuck with you. It is something that you won’t really forget and something, I hope anyways, you pass on to your kids or others that dont know.

You were probably also taught the Golden Rule, “do unto others as you would have them do unto you.”

This was always huge in Sunday schools or first grade classrooms. Its supposed to be the biggest “rule” to follow as a human being. The most basic concept, “don’t do something to someone you wouldn’t want done to you.”

This rule, for myself at least, is kind of a alarm in my head. Everytime I have something come up, or things don’t go the way I want, or someone does something they shouldn’t have, this alarm goes off and is like. “Okay Mallory, now I know this sucks but would you want someone to act this way towards you, or say these things to you?” And of course not. No one wants to be talked to hateful or made to feel bad for things out of their control.

Now, I’d like to say if you are in a situation where you do have to hold your tongue or you don’t lash out when someone else is being hateful to you then that is not okay either. The people talking to you that way, or making you feel bad, isn’t following the rule so for some situations you shouldn’t either. You deserve every bit of respect as every other person on this planet and shouldn’t settle for holding back, you shouldn’t let someone treat you any less than the Goddess/God you are!

My point is though, these lessons or rules we were taught as kids stay with us. They shape us. From the way we socialize with others. The way we eat, drink, and exercise. The way we present ourselves at work, or at the ballfields, or even at church. Or simply, just the way we live our every days lives.

Here’s the kicker now, and wait for it, its a doozy.

You can learn more!

You can become more!

I know, crazy to think your not done growing!

All those lesson, those rules you learned, yes helped mold you into who you are as of right now but they were just the base! You may be just starting out on this journey called life or you may be Fifty plus years into it but it doesn’t matter, anyone can learn something new! Anyone can change the way they go about their lives. That’s the beauty of free will.

The only thing that stops you from doing anything is yourself! – instert fist pump into the air.

Someone, somewhere, just eye rolled.

I know, it’s a cliche saying.

I promise you though, that sentence is one hundred percent truth!

The only thing that stops you from doing anything is yourself!

I strongly believe we weren’t put on this Earth to just live, but to grow, to learn from each other and ourselves.

If you’re in a place where your nervous about something upcoming or your lost to what your next step should be in life that’s okay! We all get that way, we are all trying to figure this out. Some people seem like they have it all figured out, but I promise we all have daily struggles, daily obstacles that get in the way. One of my favorite quotes is by Tim Hiller, “Do not compare your beginning to someone else’s middle.”

This is just the start, you have already learned so much without even knowing! You have already begun to shape your life without even thinking about it!

You have the ability to turn your life into absolutely anything you want it to be. So why not learn something new. Why not make a new “rule” for yourself to help set yourself up for success or to help make a new habit that aids you.

The possibilities are seriously endless.

Do what makes you happy.

Become someone that makes you smile.

And don’t be scarred for the future, embrace it. Embrace knowing you can make your life into anything you want if you’re willing to learn it.

This was me the day I passed my insurance license test. Never in a million years would I have thought I could learn about something like this, but now, three years later, I have an amazing job that I love doing all because I CHOOSE to become more. I wanted more. It’s never to late to learn something new!

No One Cares, I promise!

So I have come to realize…no one cares.
Hear me out now…
I have spent my entire life with a certain “image” in my head of how I should be. Kind, Loving, Hardworking, Accepting of Everyone, and most importantly Forgiving. And I really do try to live that way cause I feel we could all use a little more of each in our lives.
But,
I have also spent most my life with a certain “image” of how I should look and act. So now that’s constantly made me worried that I’m doing something wrong or I’m not good enough at times. Don’t ask me why cause I honestly dont have an answer as to why, maybe my childhood, maybe my adulthood, who knows. But I do know I’m not alone, I know there are women everywhere that constantly worry they are messing up, constantly thinking they aren’t good enough, and the truth is…no one cares!!
Not in the bad sense I promise but in the YOU ARE NOT ALONE sense! All of us are thinking and feeling this way, and if you dont then congrats ! That is so awesome and I could not be more proud (and secretly envious) of you!! But for the ones of us that have these thoughts, these feelings, the constant looking in the mirror and your smile goes to a frown…you are not alone!
And Sis, listen to me, no one cares! Do not let yourself go through life worrying about what you look like, worrying about how you should act or if that one person really does or doesn’t like you. You live your life! Act the way you want, wear whatever you want, talk, feel, love HOWEVER YOU WANT!
Cause in reality we all have so much going on, so much that we ourselves are constantly worried about that if someone does have the time to judge you for you being you then obviously that’s just proof you are that amazing to be on someone else’s mind and they can kiss what the good Lord gave ya!
I say all of this so that the feelings you have now you know it’s not just you, its not just me, its us, its we. As women we have to build each other up in every way possible. And I hope this helps to build you!
So here’s to being “over” myself! Over all the negative thinking, the negative feelings, the negative talk (that really only I say to myself). And Here’s to growth, to knowing I like me, my family likes me, my friends like me… exactly the way I am.
And Here’s to you, for it only takes one day, one moment to change your thoughts, to change your perspective on yourself and how you view your life and others! I know you can do it!
Here’s to us!